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May 14, 2018
Life has little use for promises. As soon as you think something is promised, life will sweep in and wipe the slate clean, leaving you with nothing more than a memory of what you thought was supposed to happen. Whether it’s health, relationships, employment, money, success, loyalty, or even life itself, none of them MAKE promises, they can only HAVE promise, and it’s on you to SEE the promise life has for you.Things we perceive as being promised by life are actually just hopeful predictions, and those hopeful predictions sometimes have the power to completely derail us when they don’t come true because we give them power they never had to begin with. That’s where you need to have promise as opposed to depending on promise. Having promise is foreseeing a positive outcome given a certain set of facts and circumstances, combined with a vision, hard work, and a little bit of self-generated luck.Start having promise instead of depending on the inevitable broken promises life doles out to you. Having promise allows you to have flexibility, readjust, adapt to changing circumstances, and even overcome failure. It breeds a positive outlook, sets the tone, and lays out the path forward. Most importantly, instead of worrying about the “What if’s”, it ALLOWS for the “What if’s”, enabling you to seamlessly forge ahead, immune from the debilitating disappointment life has in store for you. Stop depending on promises you know the world can’t keep, and focus on having promise in all that you do, and you’ll find that promise had is even more powerful than a promise kept.
May 7, 2018
On Your Own
In wolf packs, there comes a point where certain wolves leave, or disperse, from a pack in order to depart from an environment where they have lost power or respect. The “lone wolf”, as it is commonly referred to, leaves an environment of protection, food, and companionship, in search of something better for themselves. Initially, the lone wolf has to be hyper-vigilant, self-sufficient, and self-dependent, often covering hundreds of miles in search of what they couldn’t find where they once were.
If the lone wolf has a strong enough will to survive, they can eventually find another pack to become a part of, and even one day become the alpha leader. No different than the lone wolf, sometimes we need to break away from the pack. Sometimes we are stuck in a pack which has no respect for us anymore, and provides nothing more than a little piece of mind that we will be relatively safe, with food, shelter, and clothing, while simultaneously beating us down through their own drive to be the top dog.
Maybe it’s time for you to stray away and live the life of a lone wolf for a bit. A chance to live for yourself, find yourself, and fend for yourself. To see what you’re made of, and learn what you’re capable of. This journey has the potential to land you in a place where you can become the leader of your own pack, where you’re surrounded by people who will welcome you with open arms, and who can see you for what you truly have to offer. As uncomfortable as it is, and as scary as it will be, venturing away from what you know, and forcing yourself to survive, will reinvigorate your hunger, activate your will, and allow you to live your life instead of just tolerating it. -CPT Ryan
April 30, 2018
If you dread Sunday nights because of Monday mornings. If you are hammering the snooze button twenty times before you drag yourself out of bed, only to rush around the house so you can barely make it out the door on time. If you get sick to your stomach as you open your email each day, dread seeing your co-workers or your boss, and you’ve become a slave to the clock, just waiting for permission to bust out, fly home, and crack a beer. Or if you have become so shell-shocked by menial, unimportant conflict, you’ve conditioned yourself to simply tread water and walk on eggshells so as to avoid stress which really has no meaning to you…you are ready.
I have come to the conclusion we all reach a point in our lives where everything is telling us we’re ready to make a change. All of the aforementioned symptoms are things we have all experienced at one point, if not currently. But somewhere in human evolution, the grind got confused with misery, and we convinced ourselves those feelings were part of life, and they’re what you’re supposed to feel in the illustrious pursuit of “success”. So we waste away our time, and bury our passions, all so we can look back on years and years of showing up, with the only reward being a monthly retirement check so we can do nothing for the rest of our lives and get paid for it.
So you have to ask yourself, do you feel like you’re accomplishing nothing just so you can responsibly retire and get paid to do nothing? If you have found yourself silently nodding as you read along…you are ready. You are ready for a change. You are ready to take a chance. You are ready to walk blindly into your new life, because you literally have nothing to lose. If you are going to experience pain and suffering for something, make it something you are truly passionate about, because pain and suffering without passion is simply suppression. As soon as you realize you are risking your life by not taking a risk on your life, you will be ready to leave that which is giving you nothing for something, in exchange for something which can give you everything. You’re ready. So let’s go. -CPT Ryan
April 23, 2018
Accept Less, Expect More
“The standard you walk past is the standard you accept.”- David Morrison
Stop accepting that which is holding you back. Stop accepting people taking advantage of you, treating you and other people badly, and bringing you down by refusing to see the greatness you possess. Stop accepting mediocrity as if you’re predestined to be stuck in its grasp forever, and you don’t deserve better for some reason. Stop accepting your negative thoughts, your negative self-image, and your self-deprecating behavior. Most of all, stop accepting who you are, what you are, and where you are, as something that can’t be changed into something you designed through a vision.
Expect more from your life, more from your time, and more from your future. Expect the very best from those you surround yourself with. Expect them to build you up when you need it, knock you down a peg when you need it, and to be there when everyone else high-tailed it out of town. Expect more from your job, your co-workers, and your boss. Expect fulfillment, expect passion, expect purpose. Most of all, expect more from yourself. Expect your very best, expect to survive, thrive, and overcome. Expect to achieve.
Accept less, expect more. There isn’t anyone, anything, or any rule that says you have to accept today without expecting more from tomorrow. It’s in our nature to accept pain, suffering, and being unhappy. We become numb to it, stay the course, and drive on. But just because it’s in our nature, doesn’t mean that’s the way it has to be. Stop walking past your greatness, this life expects more from you, and you should expect more from life. The sooner you can accept that, the sooner you can create the future you always expected. -CPT Ryan
April 16, 2018
It will not always be clear. You will not always know what it is you want, what your vision looks like, or what your purpose is. It may feel as though you are just blindly wandering along, not really knowing if anything you are doing is really going to help some higher cause, or take you to a place of fulfillment. These feelings are inevitable, and they are just as much a part of the process as defining your passion, your purpose, and your plan. It is in these times where you’ll find the importance of, at a minimum, prescribing to an ideal.
Although goals, plans, and visions can provide us comfort and motivation in the darkest of hours, just because you don’t have them doesn’t mean you are altogether lost. Sometimes the only guiding light you will have is an ideal, or a concept which is completely formless, but holds a deep meaning to you somehow. As you embed these principles into all that you do, slowly a vision will form through opportunity, and that vision will eventually give way to passion, which will power your purpose. You may even know exactly what it is you want to do, but it doesn’t exist yet, in which case you need to derive courage from those ideals, so you can go out and create exactly what you see in your mind.
You don’t always have to know exactly where you’re going in order to know you are eventually going to get there, and your fire doesn’t always need a blueprint in order to burn. Don’t settle for mediocrity in the face of blindness; just because you may not be able to see your future today, doesn’t mean it won’t exist, and just because it doesn’t exist, doesn’t mean you can’t create it. So set chase to that which cannot yet be seen, led only by a trust in a concept, and a passion for change, and open your eyes to a reality you never imagined possible. – CPT Ryan
April 9, 2018
Leave Me Behind
I follow you everywhere you go, I precede you everywhere your headed, and I stay behind everywhere you’ve been. Sometimes I can be the furthest thing from your mind, and other times I will consume your every thought and every action. I will require the utmost commitment throughout your life, but even if you stray away, and we lose touch, our relationship can always be rekindled and repaired, as long as you are willing to put in the work.
My existence is based solely on character. I have little interest in skill, accomplishments, accolades, or defeats. Character. That’s what I care about. I don’t just want to know about what you did for people, I want to know how you made them feel, how you affected the paths of their lives, and how you changed their outcomes in a positive way; all of which I expect to drive you through your own adversity, laziness, and impulsivity, by igniting the flame of passion and laying a foundation of purpose.
I am your legacy, and my life is in your hands. I can live forever, or you can take me to the grave with you. It all depends on whether or not you are willing to sacrifice, whether or not you are willing to suffer, and whether or not you are willing to work. You let me live, and in return, I give you a life worth living, worth loving, and worth calling your own. Now that we’re acquainted, we’ve got work to do, because everyday is another opportunity to leave me behind for an eternity, so let’s get going. – CPT Ryan
April 2, 2018
For every phase of my life, I have encountered someone whom I have clashed with. People who couldn’t even begin to fathom what it is that makes me tick, with the innate ability to cut me down with the exact right comment, at the exact right time, which made me question who I am, what I do, and why I do it. No matter how much I tried to brush it off as ignorance, deep down, I just wanted them to “get it”, to see me for me, and in all reality, I just wanted their acceptance.These people can ruin your life. There’s no other way to say it. The focus and energy we have all wasted at some point in our lives trying to gain acceptance from somebody who isn’t willing to waste any focus or energy on us, has a direct correlation as to how far away we are from accomplishing something truly meaningful, or reaching true happiness. They become walking rabbit holes who divert us from focusing on an ideal, in order to focus on an opinion, all at the cost of our time and even our sanity.Take a hard look at yourself and honestly assess who these people are in your life. (And if you think you don’t have any, look again, because there’s always one.) Maybe you work with them, maybe you went to high school with them, or maybe you grew up with them, and you’re still trying to make them “get it”, even if only in your subconscious. Stick to your guns. They’re not going to get it, and that’s okay. Their acceptance is irrelevant to your journey. Stay focused on an ideal, forget the opinions, and create a life you are willing to accept as your own, because in the end, that’s the only acceptance that actually matters.
March 19, 2018
Hard Knock Life
In a deep conversation about life some time ago, I was asked point blank if I have ever really had to struggle. While initially taken aback, my foolish pride kicked in as I started rattling off a slew of impressive things. “Of course I’ve struggled,” I retorted, followed by a complete biography of “First of all, I…” and “Then I…”, and “Not to mention I…”. At the end of my dissertation, I felt fairly confident I had proven my case in the court of public opinion, however, the real point of the conversation wouldn’t dawn on me until some time later.Life has a funny way of making you eat your words. In boxing terms, it’s a counter puncher. You throw your best jab, and it comes over the top with a right hook that knocks you flat out before you even saw it coming. What I didn’t know in the midst of my rant about my “struggle”, was that life had a right hook waiting in the wings; locked, loaded, and ready show me that even though I had done things that were hard, I had never actually experienced true struggle, and it was about to show me the difference.The time that followed was uncharted territory. Nothing I had done prior, regardless of how hard it was, could prepare me for it. It was a dark and hopeless place, which opened my eyes to a part of my brain I never knew existed. It made me question everything. It made me want to quit. It made me want to change. But in all reality, it was probably one of the most important times of my life because it made me want to take action. It showed me that doing what is hard, or difficult, in life is about testing your will to succeed. Whereas the struggle…real struggle…is about testing your will to survive.In doing what is hard, you may come up short from time to time, fall down, or take a few losses. Don’t mistake those times for real struggle and adversity, as they will leave you hopelessly unprepared. “There are levels to this game,” as UFC champ Daniel Cormier once told an opponent, and life’s challenges are no exception. If you have done things that are hard, I commend you. If you have experienced struggle in its truest form, the kind that takes your breath away along with all your facades, don’t miss your chance to take advantage of this gift from life. It is here where you will find yourself, you will find your friends, you will find your propensity to take action, you will find your hunger, you will find what has true meaning, and most of all, you will find your will to live.
March 12, 2018
When it feels forced. When the harder you try, the worse it works out. When everything you say is misunderstood, and everything you do is misinterpreted. When you start thinking something is just plain wrong with you, and there is no way up and no way out because, really, who would want you anyway? When you start having those feelings, and they start creeping into every aspect of your life, realize that you aren’t a failure, you have simply misapplied your passion into something which is not compatible with what you have to offer, or what you were meant to do.We get so spun up about what we should do with our lives, we lose sight of what we could do with our lives. We mistake acceptance for success, and chase the accepted instead of the unexpected, one day realizing we have worked ourselves into something we never really wanted but thought we needed, and now we just can’t fake the funk any longer. And that’s okay.It’s okay to be a misfit. It’s okay to lack acceptance. It’s okay to have gone down the wrong path, and it’s certainly okay to change course in exchange for what you were meant to do. The most successful among us, the truly successful ones, not the most distinguished or most decorated, but the ones who made a life of chasing their dreams, were all once the misfits who were misunderstood and misinterpreted. So make no mistake about it, you may not fit in, but why would you want to anyway?