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January 15, 2018
What The Hell
And then one day you wake up and ask yourself…what…the hell…am I doing? Maybe you started down a certain path because you thought it was the right, or responsible, thing to do. Maybe you were trying to make other people in your life proud of you. Maybe you were subconsciously covering up your insecurities or failures. Or maybe, you don’t really even know why you went where you went, or why you are what you are. Regardless of motive, the day of reckoning between what you’re doing, and what you were meant to do, comes to all of us in due time. The question is, when that day comes…what…the hell…are you going to do about it?The difference between pain and misery is that pain is suffering with a solution on the horizon; misery is suffering with no resolution in sight. When you wake up and realize you were meant to do something else in life, don’t let that realization turn into festering misery as you watch your shot at a better life pass you by, knowing exactly what you could have done to make it happen. Take the short term pain of starting over, and use it to start laying a foundation for change in order to hone in on what you really want out of life, and to leave the feeling of being unfulfilled behind you.So good morning, we hope you slept well, but the day of reckoning between you and who you’re meant to be is here, and it’s time to figure out what the hell you’re gonna do about it. Whether it’s your job, your relationships, your hobbies, or your side hustle, let’s get rolling and stave off misery by lining up your plan and taking some action. There will still be pain and there will still be suffering, but your pain has a plan ready and willing to manifest itself in the form of passion…you just have to get up and go get it.
January 8, 2018
Who Not What
On January 7th in the year 2000, at a small gymnasium in Sumter, South Carolina, the students of Thomas Sumter Academy had gathered on a Friday afternoon to have a pep rally for their winter sports teams. In one of the final acts, a few of the school’s basketball players stole the show with a skit where they posed as highly unskilled cheerleaders, drawing laughter and applause from the raucous crowd of teenagers in the bleachers. This was nothing new for this trio of players, most notably a 17 year old Air Force brat by the name of Josh Peck. In the chaos of the pep rally, and the thunder of school spirit, nobody in that gymnasium had any idea Josh was about to change their world forever.Josh had grown up all over the world and back, as he and his mom went wherever the Air Force sent them. In his travels, he developed not only a trademark sense of quick witted humor, but also a deep sense of compassion for others. As Josh grew, he honed those skills to the point where every interaction with him would become memorable for the other person. Even the innocent fast food workers weren’t immune from Josh’s infectious sense of humor, where he would scheme up some sort of act in their brief time together that would leave them laughing, and with a story to tell.Although never the star athlete, he loved sports and was a beloved teammate, who could often be found donating his free time to coaching little kids. He would no doubt have them in hysterics, all while honing their fundamentals, and developing the same love for athletics he had. He cared deeply about those around him. That caring nature not only drove him to start bagging groceries at the local Winn Dixie just so he could pick up the tab when he and his friends went out to eat, but to also become the first line of defense in his mother’s dating life in the years following her divorce, where more than a couple potential suitors would fall victim to his exceptional quick wittedness as he attempted to scare them off.Maya Angelou once said “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” In the moments following that trademark skit, suddenly the world would be forced to reflect upon those feelings Josh had evoked in them over the years. As the gymnasium roared with the sound of the school’s fight song, Josh collapsed on the gymnasium floor, and in an instant, he would lose a battle he never knew he was fighting to begin with. Unbeknownst to him and his family, Josh suffered from an undiagnosed case of Marfan Syndrome, and the same enlarged heart which endeared him to all he came in contact with, would also take his life.Josh was my cousin. And I don’t tell his story for the sympathy, the fanfare, or the all too predictable “Life is short” speech. The message I want everyone to take from Josh’s story is that anyone, regardless of success, fame, or fortune, can forever change the world not because of what you are, but because of who you are. In Josh’s short 17 years on this planet, he used humor, compassion, and love, to make every interaction count. Close to a thousand people showed up to his funeral in the following days, and the family was overwhelmed with support, and stories of Josh’s kindness and humor. Josh’s compassion became a model for students at Thomas Sumter Academy, where his jersey, bearing number 14, hangs in that very gymnasium to this day. And his mother Randi, my aunt, would lead the charge in the months and years following, to have lifesaving defibrillators placed in as many schools as possible to help prevent such tragedies in the future.As for me, I have spent my life still trying to live up to that 17 year old kid. I live everyday chasing the principles he embodied, and trying to place the needs of others over that of my own, forever thankful I was able to see that even a teenager from Dalzell, South Carolina, can change the world. So remember, you are significant, you are meaningful, and although nobody has the power to change the entire world, everybody has the ability to change their world because of who they are, not what they are…even if it’s one life at a time.To learn more about Josh, go to http://joshpeckfoundation.org/-CPT Ryan
December 19, 2017
oppressively constant; incessant.
What does it mean to be Relentless? What does it mean to you? I would like to give you a little insight on what being Relentless means to me. Relentless means that I never give up, I never give in. I always strive to do my best and pursue the greatness I know lives within me. I want to be able to look at myself in the mirror at the end of each day and know that I did all I could to win the day. Then after a restful sleep, wake up with confidence knowing I will do it all over again.
Each new day comes with its own challenges. Each new day comes with its own victories. Therefore each new day will demand its own relentless motivation.
There are billions of people on this earth, all which you can use to help motivate you. They could be friends, they could be enemies. They could be siblings, or parents. They could honestly be anyone in the world. But the only person who has to look at you at the beginning and end of each day is you. So instead of concerning yourself with others, why don’t you concern yourself with YOU. Focus on reaching your goals for yourself, or doing your best for you.
Relentless, is having the energy each day, hour, minute, or second, in any facet of life, to not let up, to show yourself what you are capable of, to do your best!
Be consistent. Be persistent. Be never-ending. Be tenacious. Be RELENTLESS!
December 14, 2017
What are you thankful for…
More often than not do you find yourself thinking… How can I get better? What steps can I take to improve? Or even worse, I need to strengthen my weakness. Lets stop for a minute, change gears and what if you tried something different? What if you thought of all things in your life, physical, emotional, and spiritual. Then within each of those categories you listed out at least 5 things you are thankful for? How could this change your day? Change you mood? Or Change your outlook on the journey you are on? Taking a minute to appreciate all the things that you may overlook on a daily basis, what you have, where you currently are. You may notice this has an interesting impact on how your thoughts start to transform from what you don’t have, to what you are blessed with.
You probably have heard over and over again “the joy is found in the journey.” Being thankful for your current situation will help you to take a step back and reflect on where you were before, where you are not and how much progress you have actually made. Instead of inundating yourself with where you need to be. Be thankful, build yourself up, foster a mindset of positivity.
I challenge to take 5 minutes of your day to slow down, pull out a pen, a piece of paper and write down as much as you can in that 5 minutes. Start small and list out all the things you are thankful for.
December 11, 2017
In the Moment
So life just kicked you square in the teeth. You’re a bit wobbly on your feet, a little dazed and confused, and a whole lot of embarrassed or frustrated. In the heat of the moment, you vow to change, you vow to never let it happen again, and you vow to take bold and decisive action in order to make damn sure it won’t. You go home. You look in the mirror, and in a moment of clarity, you finally admit to yourself you’re better than what just happened, where you’re at, and where you’re headed.Never forget these moments. Sear them into your memory, because in the coming days the emotions will wane, the fire will fade, and you will start to fall back into homeostasis and the familiar comfort of the norm. Slowly you will start to justify conducting business as usual again, and dismiss all of your previous thoughts and ideas as an overreaction. In doing so, that person you briefly saw in the mirror so clearly begins stepping back into the murky abyss of unrealized potential and foundationless dreams.In these moments of chaos and clarity, when all of a sudden you feel the electricity of audacity, and the rush of action coursing through your veins, you must seize the power your mind is showing you. Don’t forget how it feels. Capture it. Believe in it. Harness it into a plan of action you can systematically execute out of the ashes. The mirror to the soul is hung in defeat, and reflected upon in redemption. So when someone shows who you they really are, believe them…especially when that person is YOU.
December 4, 2017
Lost in Thought
If thoughts are the spark, then words are the fire. As important as it is to have a vision, to see a path to your purpose, and to obsess about your passion, sometimes it’s hard to get the wheels in motion. Be it fear, lack of self-confidence, or devoted opposition, the greatest version of ourselves can sometimes become stifled, and ultimately lost in thought forever if we let it. When that happens, it’s not time to quietly sit back watch life pass you by, it’s time to free your mind through speaking your mind, because if you can think it, you can speak it; and if you can speak it, you can seek it.
When you know you are meant to do something in life, so much so that it resonates through ever fiber in the very fabric of your soul, you can’t just allow your fears to silence it, you need to speak it. You need to speak it like it’s a language unto itself, one which only you can truly understand, issuing yourself such a bold challenge you will have no choice but to take action and grind forward, day in and day out, just so you can put your money where your mouth is.
Spark thoughts, and spit fire. Tell not only the world, but yourself, what the deal is, and how you plan to seal it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with putting your back against the wall and forcing yourself to fight forward, because that’s when we fight the fiercest, when it’s do or die and there’s no exit strategy. Set the ultimatum by speaking the ultimatum, and take yourself from being lost in thought, to finding the life you always dreamt of was only a few bold verbs away. – CPT Ryan
November 27, 2017
Break The Law
It can be the most frustrating feeling in the world. You have a vision, you see a clear path for that vision, you know you have what it takes to make it a reality. But time, after time, after time, it just doesn’t work out, something gets in the way, or the rest of the world just isn’t ready to see it the way you see it yet. It is in these times that we question ourselves, our self-worth, and our value. We think, “Maybe they’re right. Maybe I’m just crazy. Maybe I need to just fall in line and be average like everyone else.”
The Law of Averages is a crutch some people like to stand on which predicts a probable outcome despite some rare deviations. Basically saying we all even out. Some may argue the Law of Averages shows we are all, more likely than not, going to BE average, and they will use those odds to justify simply working within those boundaries for an eternity. But one thing these people forget is, the law admits you can increase the number of attempts to reach an improbable outcome, even if only once. The only caveat being there is no telling how many attempts it will take. That’s on you to figure out.
The variable in all these numbers, statistics, and equations…is you, and how much you are willing to fight the odds, time and time again, until you make your vision a reality. Whether it be a side hustle, a promotion, or a one rep max, keep nurturing it, keep trying it, and keep throwing it at the wall, because one time, be it out of 100 or 1,000,000, it will not only stick, it will knock the wall down altogether, making every attempt, every rep, every failure, and every day, undeniably worth it. -CPT Ryan
November 21, 2017
It’s the uncontrollable, nauseating, pit in your stomach. It’s the sweat in your palms, and running down your back, as a flush of heat comes over your face. It’s the heartbeat thumping out of your shirt, slamming its way up into your throat one thunderous beat at a time. And it’s the uncontrollable shaking in your knees, down into your calves, as the adrenaline courses through your veins, desperately wanting to make contact with the ground like some wild lighting rolling in on the storm. These aren’t the feelings of a near death experience, however, this is how it feels to go “all in”.
It’s no coincidence that going all in on something has the same unmistakable trademarks of a near death experience, because it’s an exercise in finality. It’s an eternal sacrifice of what you are, towards what you want to become, and the permanence of that change is terrifying. So sometimes we decide the stakes of going all in are too high, so we resort to the “fall in”. We keep doing what is comfortable, staying noncommittal, half-assedly throwing our hats into a few rings, hoping we miraculously fall into something great without the stress and anxiety of betting the farm on our vision.
You will never just fall into your vision, and even if you did, it would mean nothing without commitment. With commitment comes sacrifice, sacrifice creates meaning, and meaning drives purpose. So when you finally decide to go all in on something, you are effectively setting into motion a perpetual cycle of purpose fueled by commitment, which will be equally as rewarding as it is terrifying. Stop hoping to fall into your life, and start going all in on your life, because the stakes are high, and a lot could go wrong, but nothing as wrong as a life unfulfilled by the unnerving thrill of committing to something greater than yourself. – CPT Ryan
November 13, 2017
Life has little use for promises. As soon as you think something is promised, life has a way of wiping the slate clean, leaving you with nothing more than a memory of what you thought was supposed to happen, and a feeling of breathless bewilderment. Whether its health, relationships, employment, money, success, loyalty, or even life itself, none of them make promises, they can only have promise.
Having promise and making a promise are considered to be two different things, when in actuality they are one in the same. Having promise is foreseeing a positive outcome given a certain set of facts and circumstances, combined with a vision, hard work, and a little luck. Making a promise is no different, but somehow we tend to think that it’s some ironclad agreement with the future, when in all reality, it’s merely a hopeful prediction. So when a promise is broken, it can suddenly become a major setback in our lives because we gave it power it never really had to begin with.
Start having promise instead of depending on, and being held back by the inevitable broken promises life doles out to you. Having promise allows you to have flexibility, readjust, adapt to changing circumstances, and even overcome failure. It breeds a positive outlook, sets the tone, and lays out the path forward. Most importantly, instead of worrying about the “What if’s”, it allows for the “What if’s”, enabling you to seamlessly forge ahead, immune to debilitating disappointment. Stop depending on promises you know the world can’t keep, and focus on having promise in all that you do, and you’ll find that promise had is even more powerful than a promise kept.
November 9, 2017
How to catch more zZz….
Even with the best diet and fitness routine, if your sleep is off, your goals will not be achieved. Here @bournrelentless offers some expert tips for a good night sleep whilst training.
Eat more Protein.
Studies have found that consuming the right amount of protein as part of a whole food, minimally processed diet, can improve sleep quality for middle-age adults. This sleep quality is better compared to those who lost the same amount of weight while consuming a less than ideal amount of protein.
Drink more in the Morning.
As you eat healthier fluids, especially water plays a major role in your success. Many people increase their water intake, but drinking a lot before bedtime can lead to a disturbed sleep. To combat this make sure you are drinking your additional liquids first thing in the AM.
Exercise early or opt for Yoga.
Exercise plays a huge part in a healthy lifestyle, but intense exercise before bedtime can interrupt sleep. It is best to exercise in the morning or choose exercises which de-stresses the body such as yoga if you have more time in the evening.
Surrender to the night with FIREFLY.
Before bed. Take one capsule of FIREFLY to optimize your Zzz’s as well as increase muscle recovery with essential vitamins and minerals like magnesium. Along with a small dose of melatonin, this natural combination helps to calm your body and allows you to peacefully drift off.
Elevate with the right Pre-Workout.
Choose BOURN Relentless INVOKE to help take your workouts to a whole other dimension. This pre-workout contains just the right amount of caffeine for a focused and limitless workout. INVOKE also has essential amino acids that increase muscle stamina, muscle recovery during long sets and improves force exertion even towards the end of your workouts. While these are all working to improve muscle function, essential vitamins have also been added for pure forms of energy for that little extra boost to finish off strong. The best part about INVOKE is when you are done working out, it don’t keep your engine revving nor is there a crash 30 mins after you leave the gym. The all natural ingredients are completely used up during your workout.
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